Love is also a subject matter =)

Love is not only a verb, it is also a subject matter.

Meg 

Upon knowing, learning and understanding relationships from various books, authors and speakers, I have realized that there are at least three subjects we need to know about our future husband/wife. The equation will most likely this one:

Science has something to do with learning the nature of our partner in life on how God created them to be as man and woman. From DNA, hormones, body systems etc… to understanding it deeper, gives way to appreciate more our spouses significantly and wonderfully.  Just have the time to study and observe. Tip: be patient to know. Books and personal interview are really of great help.

History deals with our partner’s home atmosphere within his/her own family, this is what I called ‘internal affairs’. No family is perfect; some are even broken however the way we able to see our partner how he/she deals with his/her parents will definitely play an important part on how he/she will deal with us as a husband/wife or father/mother to be. His/her own personality was molded at home from the start. Any unresolved issues must be properly addressed so as not to mess up with the family we want to build up. Tip: Forgiveness is the key to whatever failures/shortcomings of any parents to their own child. It doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong. The more he/she learns to forgive (his/her parents); the more he/she learns to forgive our imperfections and flaws easily.

Psychology shall I say pertain to an attitude of our partner about his/her own disposition about other persons; I referred to it as the external affairs. How he/she deals with his/her friends, colleagues and particularly his/her past loved ones. No matter how good we are in knowing his/her own nature and understanding his/her own history, if we don’t know about his/her own personal life and loved from the past; the totality of the whole equation is not complete. Tip: a good closure (from his/her exes) is very important for any relationship to start a good one.

Chemistry is the sum of Science, History and Psychology. If chemistry is ok and the formulation is good (readiness in terms of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual maturity of both parties)… believe me, the law of physics will follow… next will be Math (to add and multiply)…are there any subjects I shouldn’t miss? Please let me know. =)