Family =)

I am Meg. I took up my BS degree in one of the universities in Manila. I am not a Psychology student but with the interest of the subject matter, it became my passion to learn and like it more. And with that passion, my interest has brought me to finish my thesis entitled Child’s Intellectual Development Center in 2003. This individual project has led me to know about kids’ behavior as my end-user. I learned how to meet their spatial needs but to know it, I appreciate first how they behave, think, say, feel, move and react.

My article to share with you today has something to do with some of the people I came to meet in my life and to me as a person. We have to remember that there’s always a ‘child in us’. This child in us determines how fulfilled we are as a son, daughter, mom, dad, wife, husband, friend or a lover. The completeness of a person is always started at home with his/her mother and father. A mother who gives light of encouragement and a father who gives motivational strength or support fulfill a child’s need for steadfast love; a love that is constant, unconditional, accepting, loving, caring, and selfless… any thing that’s wonderful to feel. A child’s brain is like a diskette that can save someone’s act of love so easily and will retain for so long.

Child’s memory depends on what the parents allow it to store. If we allow love, he/she will feel love. However, for others this is not the case. The unresolved conflict or issues between a child and the parents evolved through the years and somehow can be unconsciously influence to their own child in the future. This pattern behavior is a disease that requires understanding and acceptance. We have to know that in them, or the child in them was never a child they’re really wanted to feel. It was not their choice to be with parents who were abusive. The longing or craving for love when they were a child fills up a major space in their hearts. As they grow, they want that emptiness to be fulfilled instantly through drugs, premarital sex or wrong relationships.

Completeness as a child is like a love in itself that is overflowing… ready to share and love. It cannot be influenced by external factors. There’s no space within himself/herself that is empty but instead always full. It is stronger even more if the parents inculcated within him/her the spiritual values aside from their unwavering love… a love that is filled with love, peace and joy.

To have that kind of love, it is encouraged that everyone who has gone through with tough times as a child to accept and allow the kind of love that our Heavenly Father has to offer. He has the power to fulfill that emptiness. God has the power to delete every unfortunate memory in the mind through forgiveness, understanding, acceptance and replenish it with gratitude…a love that transcend from the heart to the mind… a feeling that is so wonderful to feel and too good to last a lifetime.

Love and nurture the ‘child in us’. We have the power to create, sustain and grow the kind of love we want to see in this world. As parents, always show love at home and this will be a heavenly place on earth for a child to stay, love and forever be remembered. =)

Family = father and mother i love you