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Why Rebound Relationships Can Be Really Bad?

Rebound relationships are a delicate topic to many people. Some recent studies show that they can actually be beneficial, helping to improve confidence and ward off loneliness. However, it doesn’t necessarily work out this way for everyone.

In many cases, when coming out of a relationship, people need time to get over emotional wounds, rediscover themselves and put things in perspective. Jumping straight into a new relationship stifles this important process, which can lead to feelings of confusion. Instead, rebound relationships are often used to fill an emotional void. After all, few people like being alone. Sometimes, rebound relationships are even simply an attempt to make the ex jealous. If you’re in a rebound relationship for all the wrong reasons, there’s also the possibility of hurting the person you’re with, who may genuinely care for you.

That’s not to say that this is true of everyone. People are different, and some are perfectly capable of progressing from one relationship to another very quickly in a non-destructive manner. That said, it’s too easy to begin a new relationship based on the same harmful behavior patterns. These issues can occur beyond our awareness, particularly when our emotions start getting in the way. Although this doesn’t mean that your new relationship is doomed to fail, it can cause issues that make it a difficult experience.

No matter how much time you’ve had to get over your previous relationship, it’s till possible for old habits and emotions to rear their ugly heads. It’s important to prepare yourself for this, and you should consider talking about it with the new person in your life. Asking for their understanding and support can go a long way toward preventing problems.

For instance, if you have negative feelings toward riding motorcycles, it’s advisable to tell your new partner why you feel that way. Perhaps someone close to you died in an accident while riding. Instead of burying the feelings until they explode, it’s more productive to talk about your reasonable concern so you can deal with it together. If you find that past emotions are disrupting your ability to have a healthy new relationship, counseling can be a helpful tool. Otherwise, you may just keep being dragged down by that baggage.

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Habang binabasa ko ang artikulong ito, mas naunawaan ko at naintindihan kung bakit ang pag-ibig ay hindi nagtatagal minsan. Masalimuot. Hindi natin kagustuhan na magtapos ang lahat subalit dumarating sa punto na kailangan ng bawat isa na maghiwalay. Alam ko sapagkat naranasan ko ang ganitong sitwasyon.

Marapat na intindihin na sa ganitong pagkakataon, mas magiging masaya ang isang tao kung marunong itong magparaya. Magpatawad. Kung matututunan nito na ang pag-ibig hindi hinihingi, kusang ibinibigay. Ibinibigay sa tao ang kalayaan nitong magmahal, kapalit ng kasiyahan na makita natin na masaya ang isang tao kapiling ng pinili nitong mahalin at pahalagahan.

Hindi dapat nagtatanim ng sama ng loob kahit kaninuman. Hindi tama na maging sakim sa pagmamahal ng isang tao sa iba kung alam natin na hindi tayo ang nasa puso nya. Hindi rin maganda na hindi tayo ang nasa puso ng taong pinili nating mahalin. Masakit iyon lalo na sa nagmamahal. Pero ganun talaga. Mas mahirap naman kung nasa tabi mo sya pero ang nasa puso nya ay iba.

Marami pa ring mabubuting tao sa mundo na hangad ang pagmamahal na wagas at totoo. Ang pagmamahal na mayroon ang isang tao na mayroon ka na hindi nakita ng iba. At iyon ang isang bagay na kailangan mong alalahanin at pahalagahan. Hindi kawalan kung alam natin mismo kung ano ang tunay ng ating pagkatao. Nasasalamin kung anong buhay at kulay ng isang tao sa kung papaano nito pasalamatan ang tunay na kahulugan ng pag-ibig.

Sa aking pananaw, ang aking maipapayo; ang lahat ng tao may kanya-kanyang tadhana. Tadhana na kalakip ang pagpili sa kung anong desisyon ang naisin nating tahakin sa buhay at sa hinaharap. Ang pag-ibig ay hindi nawawala kung hindi kusang umaapaw. Hahanapin nito ang katulad ng kanyang puso na isang pusong umaapaw din sa pagmamahal. Pagsasaluhan ang pag-ibig na patuloy na umaagos na pagsasaluhan nilang dalawa. Ang pag-ibig na natutunan nilang maramdaman sa nagbigay at naglikha sa kanila… ang Diyos. =)