How Do You Deal With Disappointing People?

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CURRENT TEACHING SERIES 40 Days of Love

How Do You Deal With Disappointing People? By Rick Warren — Jul 17, 2015 “Brothers and sisters, if someone in your group does something wrong, you who are spiritual should go to that person and gently help make him right again. But be careful, because you might be tempted to sin, too.” (Galatians 6:1 NCV) Everybody in your life is going to disappoint you at some point. Why? Because nobody’s perfect! So how do you deal with disappointing people? How does love respond when people disappoint you? The Bible says in Galatians 6:1, “Brothers and sisters, if someone in your group does something wrong, you who are spiritual should go to that person and gently help make him right again. But be careful, because you might be tempted to sin, too” (NCV). The loving response to people who disappoint you is to be gentle, not judgmental. How do you have tough conversations with people in a gentle way? How do you confront people you love when you see they’re doing something they shouldn’t be doing? The Bible tells us to do it gently and with respect, not harshly or in a rude or mean way. Here’s a little equation to keep in mind: Right + Rude = Wrong. It doesn’t matter if you’re right. If you’re rude about it, nobody’s going to care what you have to say. They’re just going to get defensive! So you should respond in a gentle and loving way if you want to get through to someone who has disappointed you. Proverbs 15:4 says, “Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit” (NLT, second edition). We always have a choice how we speak to somebody — especially with our kids. Have you found how deeply hurtful words can wound a child? You can scar them for years. But the Bible says that kind words are words that will heal and help. So when your kids mess up, don’t get on their case and tell them whatever you think they are at the moment. Give them a vision of how things could be! Speak words of life and health and hope into them, not harsh words of judgment. Be gentle. It’s the same way in our marriages. How many marriage problems could be avoided if we just waited a beat and used words that are gentle and kind and not harsh or vindictive? We need to learn to cut each other some slack and be kind and gentle in our speech and responses. PLAY today’s audio teaching from Pastor Rick>> Talk It Over What tactics do you need to use to give yourself time to speak in love instead of judgment? How can you foster a gentle spirit? What does it mean to give your kids a vision of how things could be? How will you practice that in your life? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4fo1UV9pfrs   I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. --John 15:5     The Christian life really is very simple…it’s not the complicated thing we often try to make it.    Now, I’m not saying there aren’t deep and profound things we can discover about Christ and being His child as we walk with Him day by day. But really, Jesus reduced the Christian life down to one simple word in the verse above: abide.    He said, “If you abide in Me just like a branch stays connected to a vine…if you abide in Me, and I in you…you will bear much fruit.”   I’m convinced that there are many Christians who are running around trying to live the Christian life who could profit a great deal if they could just learn this simple lesson. To learn that we need to have both union and communion with the Lord if we are to bear fruit.    When you learn how to abide in Christ, you’ll find that every other thing in the Christian life will take care of itself.    All you need to do is to be available. All you need to do is say, “Lord, here I am in communion with You; I am in union with You, and You can do with me what You will.”    That is the Christian life in its simplest, yet most profound form!   Are You Making Every Area Of Your Life Available to Christ?